Drinking

Q: Why is drinking only one glass of wine a breakage of sila?

A: One glass becomes more. So why not come out it from the very beginning? Once one becomes addicted, it is so difficult to come out of the addiction. Why not refrain from anything that is addictive?

If someone who has come out of all kinds of intoxicants and is progressing in meditation takes even a very small quantity of alcohol, that person will immediately feel that it creates agitation and will feel unhappy. They can't take it. Ignorance causes impurities to develop and intoxicants are closely associated with ignorance. They drown all your understanding. Come out of them as quickly as possible.

Q. How can I stay friends with people who drink if I don’t drink myself?

SNG: If you are intelligent enough, then you will remain friends if necessary. 

First of all, decide why you want to be friends with such people. If you have to be in their company while they are drinking, then use your intelligence and judgment. If you refuse to drink by saying that now you are a pure person doing meditation, they will just get angry with you. So firmly decline the offer to drink by saying politely that it doesn’t suit you. This will be a true statement for it can never suit somebody to drink if he is trying to strengthen his mind with meditation. 

Consider an example. 

A man suffering from diabetes goes out with some friends one evening. The friends coax him to eat sweets arguing that one piece will do him no harm. If he eats the sweets, it will only make his condition worse, but if he is sensible, he won’t give in and suffer. He will say that he is diabetic and it does not suit him to eat sweets, whereas the others are free to eat them. 

Similarly, exercise your willpower and firmly but politely decline any offer to smoke or drink, giving the simple but true reason that these do not suit you. You might worry that they will make you feel like an outcaste. If you are intelligent, that won’t happen. Firstly, why be part of a group with such bad habits? If you can’t avoid it, act as advised above and protect yourself.

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🌷 व्यसनों से छुटकारा 🌷

अगर सिगरेट पीने की मन में कामना जागे तो उस समय तुरंत मत छूना सिगरेट को । कम से कम 10-15 मिनिट तक मत छूना।

फिर 10-15 मिनिट तक इस सच्चाई को जानते रहो की मेरे मन में सिगरेट पीने की तमन्ना है और शरीर में इस प्रकार की संवेदना हो रही है। 

और मैंने अनेक बार देखा है की शरीर की संवेदनाए अनित्य होती है। तो यह जो मेरे भीतर स्मोकिंग की इच्छा उठी है इसका इन संवेदनाओ से सम्बन्ध है, तो यह भी अनित्य है। तो दोनों को देखते है। कब तक रहती है देखते है।10-15 मिनिट देखोगे तो छुटकारा हो जाएगा।

तो देखना सीखो।

जब जब ऐसी कामना जागे तो उसका गुलाम होने की बजाय कम से कम 15 मिनट देखना सीखो, धीरे धीरे इसी प्रकार अन्य व्यसनों से भी छुटकारा होता चला जाएगा।